"We still need to be better sons, better brothers, better husbands, better providers, better protectors, better followers, and better leaders."

How about being a better friend to other men? Good male friends are the people that men can talk to about this stuff. Make good friends early in your life, and make the effort to stay friends as it goes on. They are the people you can take the mask off around, because they know you. Society isn't going to do shit for any of us, but your friends will.