Have you ever worked in a restaurant? Chefs are little dictators ordering their crew around like slave drivers. Gordon Ramsay's asshole behavior isn't his personality, it's the standard for a restaurant chef. In his excellent instructional videos, when he is by himself he is as sweet as can be. When Anthony Bourdain wrote about working in the kitchen, he never mentions waiters or waitresses, because he hated them. The only time that restaurant workers are a pleasant collective is when they are drinking and doing drugs together after work. When they are trying to get those orders out it is all swearing and threatening. The head chef is the boss, period.